I started 2016 without any goals. No New Year’s resolutions. No plans for the future.
Toward the end of 2015 I found myself in a downward spiral of obsession and claustrophobia. Each day was a chore to get through. I never seemed to have enough time to do what needed to be done, so I did a lot of nothing.
It seemed foreign to me to not have any goals for the new year. It’s out of character but I just couldn’t focus on anything outside of the immediate. I couldn’t even imagine what the next year would bring because I couldn’t see past tomorrow.
I happened to be sitting in my sister’s kitchen on January 1st. We have always have tried to get together on New Year, whether in person or online, because we’re planners and goal setters. However, this year we didn’t make any plans. It was only a last minute decision to drive the 3 hours to visit her.
Instead of planning, we chatted about our current struggles and the feelings of lethargy that we were apparently both dealing with. We took the time to reconnect and sympathize. Honestly, we didn’t have any great words of encouragement for each other. Only that we could understand what the other was going through.
I mentioned to my husband on the ride home that night, how neither my sister nor myself had been able to come up with any great goals for the new year. We felt stuck.
That’s when he said something that was a complete paradigm shift for me.
He said, “Not all goals have to be life changing.”
I realized then that I had been looking for something that was going to completely revolutionize my life. I wanted THE GOAL that would pull me out of the doldrums and shine a light on a bright new future.
But those words set me on a new path. A path of simplicity, instead of enormity. A path to be taken one step at a time. A path to be strolled for the sheer pleasure and not for some extravagant destination at the end.
What has happened since January 1st has been a series of deliberate steps that have, in the course of few short months, altered the course of my life in a very “life-changing” way. I didn’t plan it. I just walked it.
I want to share with you those deliberate steps and somehow help you walk out of the mire of overwhelm and into the spaciousness of balance. What you see is not what you get. You can change your perspective, open up, and get more out of life.
P.S. Part of this change is giving Coffee & Confidence an overhaul. I appreciate your patience as I work out the kinks and think out the quirks to bring you something fresh and new.