Too Much Pavement – Words of Wisdom

normality, paved, road, flowers, growGrowing up, I lived in a tiny rural town in the north Maine woods.  Castle Hill.  It sounds romantic and historic, but it was really just a lot of trees and potato fields.  Not much happened there.  There were no stores, gas stations, or traffic lights.  So if you wanted some adventure, you had to go looking for it.

We lived on a dirt road.  All of our neighbors were family members.  Aunts and uncles, grandparents, and cousins were within walking distance.  Our entertainment was riding our bikes, climbing trees, picking dandelions, or rolling down a grassy hill.

I spent a lot of time walking through the woods with my dog, Lucky.  She was my closest friend and confidant.  I knew she would never leave me stranded and would let me know if there was any danger lurking nearby.  So we would confidently hike for hours through the acres and acres of forestland along our dirt road.

We found all kinds of treasures.  Old rock walls and abandoned garbage heaps that were proof that someone had been there before the trees took over.  We saw birds nests and wild critters.  But the best treasures we found were the rare Lady Slipper orchids that grow wild in the cool, wet places in Maine.

Lady Slippers are protected in the state because they require very specific conditions to grow. These conditions are only found in uncultivated areas where a certain kind of fungus thrives.  The Lady Slipper must have this fungus in the soil to gain the nutrients it needs.

Most people who live in Maine have heard of the Lady Slipper but have never seen it in its natural habitat because they haven’t ventured off the beaten path.  Maybe they don’t have a K-9 partner to give them confidence to explore or maybe they’re content with dirt roads and potato fields.

If you’ve heard other people talking about their adventures and the beauty they’ve found in their lives, you don’t have to be content with the stories.  Take a chance and venture out into the woods yourself.  It might seem a bit intimidating and a little dark at first, but when you get in there, you’ll find a world of beauty and excitement.

The pavement only leads to places where others have already been.  You’re life shouldn’t be defined by following someone one else’s road.  You were made for something different.

Get off the pavement.  See the flowers for yourself.  Create your own story.

What adventure or success have you heard stories of others obtaining that you would like to see for yourself?  How would you feel to find a treasure in your own life?  Share your comments here.

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Know Your Worth – Words-of-Wisdom

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world, standards, worth

I’ve learned that I can’t be all things to all people.  It’s exhausting, I’m terrible at it, and, inevitably, I disappoint someone.  Usually myself.

I want to be proud of who I am.  And I want to be someone that my family is proud of.  That means being true to myself and finding worth in myself.

Everyone has their opinions.  But I’ve come to realize that most of them don’t matter.  I’ve given the opinions of others too much importance in my life.  Maybe you find yourself in the same place.

The truth is, people are thinking about you a lot less than you think.  And when they do think of you, they are looking at you through their own version of perfection.  We place too much value on what others have planned for us.  When in reality they’re much too busy planning their own lives to spend time thinking of you.

“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” – Jim Rohn

Put everyone in their proper place and stop putting so much value in what you think others are thinking. They’re not really thinking of you at all.  Your worth comes from you and from those who truly care about you.

Be true to yourself.

When have you disappointed yourself because you were trying to measure up to someone else’s standards?  How do you measure your own worth now?  Share your answers in the comments

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There’s No Such Thing as Perfection – Words of Wisdom

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Real, perfect

I’ve struggled with perfectionism for a long time.  I’m really not sure why.  Maybe it’s because I felt like such an odd duck and I didn’t want other people to see me that way.  I wanted to appear like I had everything together and I felt confident and comfortable in my own skin.  Which was very far from the truth.

Recently, I’ve tried to really delve into my own depths and find out what really makes me tick.  In the process of looking deeper into myself, I’ve started looking into the lives of others.  What’s deep inside of them?  What truth about themselves are they also trying to mask with perfectionism.

I’ve come to realize, there is no such thing as perfect.

Everyone views things from an individual stand point.  What I feel would be perfect is not what someone else thinks is perfect.  Our perspectives and our goals are different.  When we go through life, trying to live up to everyone else’s version of perfect, we lose before we even start.  You become a people-pleaser.  And you can’t please everyone.

So I’ve decided to strive to become my own version of perfect and know that I will be a disappointment to some.  And I will no longer be frustrated when someone else doesn’t live up to my standards.  It’s enough that we try to become better versions of who we were born to be.

How does your struggle with perfectionism effect your creativity?  Who do you want to please?  What does your version of perfect look like?  Share your thoughts in the comments.

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Sailing Solo – Words of Wisdom

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homesick, understood, love

 

I often feel like a solo ship on a vast ocean just waiting to be explored.  I’m in awe of the wonders and terrified of the unknown but at the same time, thirsty for the possibilities.

I’m drawn to something more.  I can’t be satisfied with the status quo or mediocrity when there is so much more to be had.  I have to sail further, dive deeper, and explore the uncharted waters of human capacity.

Some people who are still safely on the shore, think I’m strange.  They don’t understand why I can’t keep my feet on solid ground.  They feel like I’ve turned my back on reality.  Determined to be a rebel.  Too good for society.

What the people on the shore don’t know, is just on the the other side of the horizon, there are other solo sailors who have launched out before me.   We smile and wave to each other as we enjoy our discoveries.  We cheer for everyone’s individual victories and encourage each other through the waves of adversity.

If you’ve launched out into the deep.  You’re not alone.  I’m cheering for you.  It’s scary but it’s so beautiful out here.  Sail on!

When have you felt like a solo ship?  What do you want to tell the people who are standing on the shore?  Share your answer in the comments.

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