How To Be Content With Your Life

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The quickest way to find happiness in your life is to be content.  When you truly appreciate what you have, the longing for something more almost disappears.  I said almost.  I’ll explain later.  But think about all the things that you have in your life and be content with that.

1. Be Thankful.

Start by thinking of all the things in your life that you’re thankful for.  Write them down in a journal.  Remember to count all the little things as well as the big things.  Always include something that you couldn’t buy with money.  Those are the most precious gifts.

2. Simplify.

Sometimes less is more.  If you’re having a hard time keeping up with the laundry, dishes, or general housekeeping. Get rid of some excess.  We don’t realize how much stuff we accumulate until we try to declutter.  Go through each room and think about what you would take with you if you had to move.  All else can go to Goodwill, a yard sale or the dumpster.

If you’re too busy to enjoy what you have, then simplify your schedule.  It’s okay to say no.  Dump some activities off your plate and spend time on things that really matter.  If you find the most joy with your family or on a hobby, make sure you allow time for that.

3. Relax.

I know, it’s easier said than done.  Remember, not everything is an emergency.  You don’t have to do it all.  The world will not come crashing down on you if you’re not perfect.  Take some time to just breathe and take in the scenery.  None of us is irreplaceable.  That doesn’t mean to slack on your responsibilities.  Only to remember that we’re not on this earth to be perfect.  We’re here to contribute our best.

4. Be okay with you.

Everyone is different.  You might feel like your stranger than the rest.  Like a square peg being force in a round hole.

Stop.  Don’t compare yourself with others.

You have unique talents and thought processes and problem solving skill for a reason.  You don’t belong in a round hole.  Somewhere there is a place just for you.  You might have to create it.

Don’t worry about conforming to society’s standards or masking who you really are.  We don’t want to lose what you have to offer.  If you feel like you’re different.  Be okay with being different.  Genius doesn’t come from the status quo.

5. Let it go. 

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Seriously.  Don’t carry baggage in your brain.  Close the door on some things that you can’t change.  Don’t look back.  Life is all about forward motion.  Becoming better.  Becoming wiser.  Becoming stronger.  We don’t live in the past.  Learn from it and move on.  The best things are always before us, not behind us.

Let go of some relationships that are dragging you down.  If you’re helping someone swim, don’t drown in the process.  Not everyone wants to do their best.  You can’t make them.  Some will appreciate the help you give, others will hold out their hand for more.  Keep enough energy resources that you can make it back to shore.

6. Roll with it.

Life changes.  Things happen.  Unexpected event occur.  It can be scary and painful.  But nothing ever stays the same.  Even the bad times.

When life knocks you down, don’t stay there in the dirt.  Dust yourself off and look for the next opportunity.  Complaining doesn’t do anything except annoy the people around you.  What ever comes your way, do something with it.  Learn from it. Build on it. Or leave it behind.  You get to choose.

Unexpected events are the times that you remember the most.  They become monuments in your lives that you’ll look back on and clearly see where the road forked.  We measure our lives in spans of time between these events.  They add the color and flavor to life, that wouldn’t have been there otherwise.  They are crash courses in life that really make the difference in who we become.

7. What money can’t buy.

Work harder on accumulating good friends and strong relationships than accumulating stuff.  The things in this life are temporary.  Stuff wears out.  Things break.  Styles become outdated.  The things that are worth keeping are the things that money can’t buy.

If your comfort zone is rattled or completely blown apart, think of what you will have left.  Relationships.  A healthy relationship is not swayed or changed by physical circumstances.  Build strong relationships that you can lean on in hard times.  Your family.  Your friends.  Your God.  These things are a constant.  Seek shelter and advice from these relationships.  And then remember, “This, too, shall pass.”

Contentment vs. Complacency

Don’t confuse being content with being complacent.  Contentment is being truly thankful and happy with what you currently have.  That doesn’t mean that you don’t ever work to get more, become more, or be better.  There is always room for improvement.   Accept what you have while making the most out of every day.

Is there any of these areas that you need to work on?  Share in the comments.

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Why Is It So Hard to be Happy?

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choice, happiness, choose, let go, learn, study, Happiness seems to be elusive.  People spend all their lives chasing after happiness.  They try to buy happiness.  They think if they become something amazing then they will be happy.  If they get married, they will be happy.  If they have children, they will be happy.  If they get the job, promotion, pay raise, they will be happy.  If they were thinner or more beautiful, they would be happy.

There is a fundamental problem with that way of thinking.  Because happiness is not a destination.  It’s the journey.

Abraham Lincoln is credited with the saying, “Folks are usually about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”  Happiness is a choice, not a result.  Being happy is not about living in a state of euphoria.  It’s about deciding what we allow to bother us.

Happiness is not the byproduct of our circumstances.

Anything in life that’s worth having takes some conscious effort.  Happiness is no exception.

Become a student of happiness.  Learn how to cope in difficult times.  Decide what’s worth hanging on to and what’s best to let go of.

We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong.  The amount of work is the same. – Carlos Castenada

Stop wishing life was easier.  Become stronger.

Turn your frustrations into fascinations.

If something is troubling you, find out why it troubles you.  Is there anything you can do about it?  If there isn’t, then accept it as it is and move on.  Don’t waste your emotional resources on things that you can’t change.  If there is something you can do, take responsibility and change it.

We can’t always change our circumstances, but we can change our mind.  We all have our own view on how things should work.  We have our own perception of perfection.

Most of our frustrations stem from when reality doesn’t line up with our plans.  Accept the fact that not everything or everyone will measure up to your standards.  Nor do they have to.  You probably don’t measure up in someone else’s world.  That’s okay.  Let it be okay.

We are happy people.

Be around people that are happy for your happiness.  Ignore the naysayers.

Surround yourself with positive attitudes and people who are excited to live life.  What’s more, become a positive person and someone that you would like to be around.  If you can’t stand yourself, then there’s a very good possibility that others find you equally offensive.  Keep positive words in your mouth and a pleasant look on your face.

self-examination, mistakes, warning, caution, life, reflectI’m not telling you to be a fake.  There is a time and a place for discussing difficulties and expressing feelings.  But let those times be times of self examination.  Get to the why of the situation.  Then make a choice on how you’re going to handle it.

Find the good in everything.  Even if the only good is a life lesson.  You can learn from your mistakes and you can learn from other’s mistakes.  It can be a caution sign on your journey and give you direction.

Let life be a happy adventure.  Don’t get hung up on the negatives.  Choose to be positive.  Let go of what you can’t change.  Take responsibility for what you can change.  You can change your mind.  That’s where happiness lives.  Don’t worry.  Choose to be happy.

Happiness take away tips.

1.  Happiness is the journey, not the destination.

2.  Happiness is a choice, not a result.

3.  Turn your frustrations into fascinations.

4.  Don’t wish for it to be easier.  Become stronger.

5.  Life isn’t perfect.  Let it go.

6.  Surround yourself with positive people.

7.  Become a positive person.

8.  Examine yourself and your choices.

9.  Find good in everything.

10.  Life is a happy adventure.

 

What makes you happy?  When have you had to make a conscious choice to be happy?  I’d be very happy to see your comment.  

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