Do You Know the Authentic You?

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truth, dream, should, do, authentic, honest, love

Truth be told

If you wrote down all the things you love to do, how would it compare to what you are doing now?  Go ahead and write down your “love” list.  Seriously.  I’ll wait.

Assuming you really wrote your list down, let’s test your honesty.  What things weren’t on the list and it surprised you?  What things did you put on the list because you SHOULD love it?  What things didn’t you write down but you really wanted to?

All too often we get hung up on what we think we should be doing instead of doing the things that we really should be doing.  We neglect the things that we were created to do, to do the things that we think others would expect us to do.

Where do we get these mixed messages?  I don’t really know but I have a hunch that it comes from comparing ourselves to others.

Imagine this scenario: Your friend is a health nut.  She runs every morning, eats clean, and takes bathroom selfies at the gym to show off her abs.  You… well, you know you should want to do all those things, (except for the bathroom selfies #enoughisenoughalready) but you just don’t get a high out of it like she does.  You’re conscious about what you eat.  You get outside and try your best to be active.  Do you love to exercise?  Be honest.  No.  So don’t tell yourself you love to exercise.  Instead, admit that you love to take walks outside in the evening but running a marathon is just not your thing.

Stop kidding yourself.  We’re so programmed to say we like something or “Mmm, It’s good,” when it’s not, so other people won’t know the truth.  The problem is that, eventually, you won’t know the truth either.


I heard a story of a wife who made her husband’s sandwich every morning before he went to work.  Every morning she put mustard on his sandwich.  For years.

Then one day his mother came to visit.  She made her son a sandwich and didn’t put mustard on it because “he doesn’t like mustard.”

Of course this led to a confrontation by his wife to find out if he did or didn’t like mustard.  He admitted that no, he really didn’t like mustard on his sandwich.  He thought that by saying nothing about it he was being supportive of his wife.  But she felt like he had been hiding his true feelings about mustard from her for years.


It’s a funny story, but it makes a point.  When you won’t admit that you dislike something in your life, you end up doing it for a long, long time.  You put on a happy face and try to do it willingly.  It creates a false impression on those around you.  And, you know what?  You can’t keep it up forever.  At some time it’ll come out.  Inevitably, it will hurt someone’s feelings and you’ll be caught in the middle.

So I’m challenging you to be honest with yourself and with those around you.  Stop saying yes to the things that don’t matter to you.  Instead, turn you efforts on the things that you really love to do. When you become the true, authentic YOU, then you are equipped to go make a difference in your world.

What did you learn about yourself as you wrote out your list?  Are you guilting yourself into some things?  Leave your comment here.

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Sailing Solo – Words of Wisdom

homesick, understood, love

homesick, understood, love

 

I often feel like a solo ship on a vast ocean just waiting to be explored.  I’m in awe of the wonders and terrified of the unknown but at the same time, thirsty for the possibilities.

I’m drawn to something more.  I can’t be satisfied with the status quo or mediocrity when there is so much more to be had.  I have to sail further, dive deeper, and explore the uncharted waters of human capacity.

Some people who are still safely on the shore, think I’m strange.  They don’t understand why I can’t keep my feet on solid ground.  They feel like I’ve turned my back on reality.  Determined to be a rebel.  Too good for society.

What the people on the shore don’t know, is just on the the other side of the horizon, there are other solo sailors who have launched out before me.   We smile and wave to each other as we enjoy our discoveries.  We cheer for everyone’s individual victories and encourage each other through the waves of adversity.

If you’ve launched out into the deep.  You’re not alone.  I’m cheering for you.  It’s scary but it’s so beautiful out here.  Sail on!

When have you felt like a solo ship?  What do you want to tell the people who are standing on the shore?  Share your answer in the comments.

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What Are Your Voices Telling You?

Fear, dreams,

Fear, dreams,

Have you ever noticed that the voices we hear in our heads NEVER say anything positive?  Have you ever awakened in the morning and immediately said to yourself, “You’re awesome!!  You can conquer the world!”

Uh.  No.

Why is that??

How come we have to fill our social media feeds with inspirational quotes?  I mean, have you ever seen anyone with a Pinterest board named, “Simmer Down” or “How to be Average.”

I seem to always be second guessing myself.  Asking myself things like, why are you chasing after that?  Who do you think you are?  No one is going to take you seriously.  What kind a credentials do you have that will make people want to share with you?

Those are the voices of fear.  Fear doesn’t tell the truth.  And fear isn’t rational.  Fear immediately tells you the “worst case scenario” and skips right over the facts and probabilities.

Let’s tell the truth.  It’s never as bad as we make it out to be in our heads.  Is it?  Why don’t we stop the madness right now and pull the cover off of fear.

  • I’m not perfect.  I don’t have to be.  And neither does any one else.  As a matter of fact, I’m not sure perfection even exists.  I’m just me.
  • My dreams aren’t too big.  They are attainable.  Not only do I have the tools and motivation to get there, but I also have the natural talent and calling.  If I didn’t want this dream deep down, I wouldn’t be looking for a way to follow it.  My dream is perfectly suited for me.
  • Others may not understand my calling.  That’s okay.  I don’t understand theirs.  But I’m going to support anyone who is in pursuit of their dream.  I hope they can do the same.
  • People want to be heard.  But they want to be heard by someone who cares and is honest.  I’m just going to be true to myself.  I can’t think of anyone else I’d rather be.

What are your dreams?  What sort of fears are you facing as you work toward them?  Can you prove to yourself that they aren’t true?

 

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