I often feel like I’m up against the clock. That I’m running to beat time, make time, or find time. I’d throw away all my clocks if it would make any difference. But it wouldn’t. Time would just keep on ticking anyway.
We have a name for feeling like the clock is your enemy. We call it Time Poverty. The feeling that somehow we are lacking the time. We imagine some people must have an abundance of time while we’re time poor. Fortunately, or unfortunately, we all have the same amount of time in a day.
What’s the difference between having enough time or being time poor?
Negative space is a term that artists use to describe the blank space that surrounds a picture or design. It balances the positive space in the artwork. Musicians use silence, or rests, as negative space in compositions. Home decorators refer to negative space when talking about empty space left on a bookshelf or under a piece of furniture. The empty space creates balance, gives rest, and simulates openness.
Negative space gives us feelings of abundance. It’s easier to feel gratitude and appreciation when you feel abundance in your life. You feel like you have room to breathe and grow.
Conversely, abundance gives us the feeling of deficiency. Too much stuff, too much on your to-do list, too much glut leave you with feelings of not enough space, not enough time, and not enough energy.
Being overwhelmed by too much clutter and too much to do often leads to inaction. There is so much pulling on you that you become paralyzed. You sit and do nothing because you know there isn’t enough time to do it all. In the meantime, more stuff piles up due to neglect. Dishes, laundry, errands, bills.
Feelings of deficiency zap all energy and motivation. It leaves you feeling depressed and woeful and wishing for more. What you’re really wanting more of is space.
Unfortunately, that feeling of wanting more often translates into accumulation.
- You buy more stuff to add to your already crowded house.
- You take on more projects thinking it will make you feel more fulfilled.
- You eat more because you want to be satisfied.
When, in actuality, you’re just squeezing yourself into a tinier space and magnifying the deficient feelings. So be very careful what you allow into your life when you feel like you’re lacking something.
Knowing that your feelings of deficiency come directly from your abundance lets you know that the opposite must also be true. Negative space gives you the feeling of abundance.
The answer to time poverty?
You need a schedule of abundance. It has to have a lot of blank space in it.
Be in the business of dropping things off your plate. Enjoy the simple life and try not to get caught up in the frenzy so easily. Scaling back and having some empty space in the house, on the schedule, in the calorie count will make you feel like you have more room. An abundance of space and time.
Keep an abundant attitude by guarding the space in your schedule. Say yes to the right things and no to the wrong things. Be very careful what you allow in your life and what you bring into your space. Remember that feeling a lack of time in your life doesn’t mean you need something more fulfilling. Often, it means you need less.
Abundance comes from negative space.
If you need some help scheduling in that negative space and improving your life, check out 10 Things For 12 Months. It’s a printable 12 month planner that will help you stay on top of your dreams and create some positive habits.
How can you create some negative space in your life? Have you ever tried to soothe the feeling of deficiency by bringing more into your life? Share how those decisions affected your life in the comments.
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